If there is one thing that anti-choice activists do that makes me see red, it is when they parade out their poster children: men, women, and children who were “targeted for abortion.” They tell us “these people would not be alive today if abortion had been legal or if their mothers had made a different choice.”

In the past couple of months, I have read two of these abortion deliverance stories that have been particularly offensive. The first story is one propagated by Rebecca Kiessling, the poster child for the no exceptions in cases of rape or incest. On her website Kiessling says that every time we say that abortion should be allowed at least in the case of rape or incest we are saying to her: “If I had my way, you’d be dead right now.” She goes onto say, “I absolutely would have been aborted if it had been legal in Michigan when I was an unborn child, and I can tell you that it hurts [when people say that abortion should be legal.]”

The second story was on the Good Men Project this week. In an article entitled, “Delivered from Abortion: Healing a Forgotten Memory,” Gordon Dalbey tells a highly unlikely story about his mother’s decision to abort him and her eventual change of heart. I say that the story is highly unlikely because the type of abortion he says his mother was about to have was not available until 50 years later. However, Dalbey claims to have recovered a memory of being “delivered” from the abortion because as a fetus he cried out to God. He claims that the near-abortion experience had caused him psychological suffering throughout his life. Since recovering the memory, he has experienced survivor’s guilt because he was saved when so many other fetuses have been aborted. In explaining how he overcame this guilt, he quotes a Jewish survivor of the Holocaust who says that the purpose of surviving is to testify to the experience.

What makes these stories so infuriating to me is that they are emotional blackmail. As readers or listeners, we are almost forced by these anti-choice versions of A Wonderful Life to say, “Oh, I am so glad you were born.” And then by extension, we are soon forced into saying, “Yes, of course, every blastula of cells should be allowed to develop into a human being.”

via I Wish My Mother Had Aborted Me.

I’ve never read something like this! Whether you agree with her or not, this essay by Lynn Beisner  was thought-provoking and brave. 

4 thoughts on “I Wish My Mother Had Aborted Me

  1. Recently, a pregnant teen girl with cancer died in the Dominican Republic because the law there is very strict anti-abortion, anti-anything that could harm a fetus. They refused to allow her chemo that might have saved her life because it could harm the fetus. They let both of them die instead. Sickening.

    This is the insanity that ensues when pro-lifers get a grip on a society. They care nothing about the life of the already born. It’s all about the fetus.

    1. That is heartbreaking and senseless. The attack on women’s rights in the US has escalated since the Tea Partiers and religious right hijacked the GOP.

  2. I will be 55 this year, my first mother gave birth to me at barely 16. Her life would have been far different had she been allowed the choice of an abortion. I have met her, talked with her and even had this very discussion. While of course I am not unhappy to be a living breathing person, I wouldn’t have known the difference had she made a different choice, but she would have!

    1. My mother made very clear to me how much better her life would have been if she had not gotten pregnant so young. But I don’t know that she would have made better choices had she never given birth to me. Her later actions don’t seem to support the notion of good sense. Still, the stigma or inaccessibility of abortion should not be the reason a woman has a child.

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